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I was struck by Sumiko Tan’s article “ ” (Aug 20). I am a retired lecturer and a widow, approaching 70, and I agree with the writer that friends can boost one’s health. I have rekindled ties with my CHIJ school friends in recent years over meals and chit-chats after losing contact for more than 40 years. Nowadays, we find “excuses” to meet, like when an overseas friend visits Singapore or at the CHIJ 170th celebrations. Once an IJ girl, always an IJ-ian! In addition, I catch up with different groups of friends, including my former colleagues and friends from my church. Even my former students have become friends and a few in the banking industry provide financial advice on my investments. I am happy to see how they have moved on in their lives. I also form new friendships through community centre activities such as ukelele and cooking classes. These regular activities have helped me build connections, keeping loneliness and social isolation at bay. In fact, they leave me feeling enriched and energised to give more and expect less. Unfortunately, there will be friends who fall off along the way – although I was initially disappointed and discouraged, I am glad for the good times we had together. Friendships are essential for a fulfilling and happy life, but it’s up to us to take the initiative – whether by reaching out or responding to those who invite us into their lives.